if i would have reflected a moment longer before posting yesterday, i would have been reminded of a few important details. as i sat counting cows yesterday, i pondered the bunk bed situation. part of the reason i like bedtime to go so smoothly is selfish. i really love the quiet time before i go to bed. be it reading, doing dishes, or watching tv. i just need a quiet hour in my life. secondly, sharing a room is mostly about the experience and the social interaction for the boys. it's about the bonds they are forming, not the space they are sharing. armed with that knowledge, i started bed time last night with a different frame of mind. i guess it's like crying it out. or duking it out, as the case may be. we read our three stories and i kissed and tucked the boys into their beds. i explained to them that they were not to come out of their room because it was bedtime. i expected them to stay in bed and speak quietly to each other. and i left. and they cried, and laughed and fought. and i stood outside the door and listened as they worked it out. i will admit, for the first night....i intervened after an hour. they were both hysterical with each other. but as they settled down they murmured their sorry brother...and i love my brother words. and i played with sweet pea's hair as he dozed off...beans holding onto my leg. then i put my hand on beans chest and he fell immediately to sleep. total time=1 1/2 hours. i am so excited that they have each other to share with.
kindergarten orientation tonight!!!
that is such a sweet mental picture of bedtime. i like your routine, sometimes the little guys just have to try to work it out for themselves. sounds great!
ReplyDeletei too love my me time after the boys bedtime.
go kindergarten!
ReplyDeletei'm so excited myself... though get ready to cry.
awe....that sounds so sweet.
ReplyDeleteHave fun at orientation! My third is in Kinder this next year, too!
awe....that sounds so sweet.
ReplyDeleteHave fun at orientation! My third is in Kinder this next year, too!
we still share a room... and no one seems to want to move out yet! it's one of the things i love best...
ReplyDeleteAww...to cute...that they fell asleep with you in there {for some reason I think I have the opposite effect on Arielle}. I think it's a good idea for you to let them figure it out on their own. I'm sure the "newness" of it will ware off soon and they'll settle into a nice routine without your intervention.
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That's a lovely post. My time of stress is the morning. I find it hard not to explode every morning as everyone gets redy for school, the baby needs changing jut as we're ready to go out of the door... and now the kittens are flying about too! GRRR. You seem to have bedtimes sorted!
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